Tuesday, March 4, 2014
Can we really know another person? Team Sphinx
Can we ever really know a person? I believe we can never really know a person because each person has their own secrets and each person will only let people know certain things about themselves. We may think and believe we know a person inside and out but we really don't we all have a best friend a sister or a brother or even a cousin or someone who we believe we know but the truth is we don't know that person. For example I really thought I knew who my childhood best friend was but truth is once we got into high school things changed for the worse and her true colors came out. Another example is I'm a twin and I really thought I knew who my sister was because we were always together and we told each other everything well at least I thought we did, but recently she became engaged and didn't tell me and she even went dress shopping with out me and through the entire engagement she left me out of it and ever since we were little we always talked about being there for each other. This goes to show that you never really who a person is just like I didn't really know who .my childhood best friend was and even my twin. I agree with Morrison when he said “an image can determine not only what we know and feel but also what we believe is worth knowing about what we feel”. We create an image of the people that we really want to truly feel like we know them and that image almost makes them perfect in our mind and when they back stab us or disappoint us we feel betrayed because in our mind we believed that we knew that person inside and out and never thought they would do such a thing. It almost makes us feel like we've been living a lie because we thought we knew that person and we made them seem like such an amazing person.
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I disagree. I think that it is possible to really know another person, it just does not happen very often. I don’t feel like you have to know everything about someone to really know him or her, or if something in their life changes them it does not mean that you did not know who they were before. I feel like Morrison would disagree with this, as she feels like you simply create an image in your head of who you want this person to be. I think I feel like this because I have been extremely close to one of my cousins since she was born. Having someone that close to you for your entire life allows you to really know who they are. We have both gone through life changing events, but still know each other just as well as we always have, if not more. I’m not sure, however, if it would be possible to really know someone that you meet later in life, or it would at least be a very difficult thing to do. I don’t think that Morrison should have been so upset that she did not really know the fisher lady when they met, because they only met once. I do believe that it is impossible to really know a person after that short of a time.
ReplyDeleteI believe that it is possible to truely know someone, however, it is rare. I have had friends that have been around since elementary school. Of course we have all changed since then but that doesn't mean core values and opinions have varied much over the years. I can go talk to my best friend and even when we haven't talked for months we can easily get back to talking like nothing has changed. I think that yes we do sometimes get an idea in our head that someone is different than they really are but there are still people that are transparent enough to show you who they really are and stay true to that.
ReplyDeleteCan we ever really know another person?
ReplyDeleteTeam Minotaur-Melisa Barth
I don’t believe we ever really get to know another person. We all seem to have a different parts of our elves that we show to selected people of our own choice. We have the person we like to show to the overall public, the parts of our self that share intimately with loved ones and then we have deep parts of ourselves that I am not sure we even share with anyone. It’s easy to try and show a part of yourself to someone who is only interested in specific parts of you. What I mean by this is for example the opposite sex may only be interested in your intimate company and what you enjoy in a sexual manner but never has any interest in your thoughts, outlook, future goals etc. I have often been in relationships and my partners really struggle to hear my childhood stories that tell a huge part of what makes part of me as an adult. We often keep secrets deep within or uncomfortable thoughts, that if shared my change one’s opinion about us. We all want to be liked and loved but at what depths would we go to receive this. Martin Luther King believed that many of us may proclaim to be a certain type of person but few would be able to prove such. They are one person in public and another aside from the public. I believe Toni Morrison believes we try to see ourselves in others and create what we believe to be missing in our own lives